Saturday 11th March 2017. 1 Alfred Place – Fitzrovia – London – UK
Stands, workshops, seminars and key-note speakers from the UK dating world. The fair offers two 3 hour programmes. The morning programme runs from 10 am to 1pm and the afternoon programme from 1.30 pm to 4.30 pm.
Back To Dating – 3 Steps To Moving On From Divorce
You got a divorce, so now what? You cried many rivers and can’t cry anymore. You sold the house or they moved out, you came to an amicable custody agreement with the kids, your family and friends are asking to set you up with their single pal and you cringe, your Saturday nights are spent watching Netflix on the couch in your pajamas and you’re wondering if you’re ready for a fresh start!
The answer is yes! Going through a divorce or life changing transition can be scary, causing anxiety and self-doubt. The break-up of a marriage isn’t easy on anyone or any part of our life. Giving and disciplining yourself in with extra TLC in your mind, body and style will help you step into the next chapter with confidence, encouragement, and hope.
Primp Your Mind. Knowledge is key to taking your mind off the negative self sabotaging thoughts and filling it with something positive. Take a class that you wanted to take at the local community college, online school or a wine and painting event for a night. Invest in yourself. Make time for learning new things. Get your spirituality ‘on’. Find what workout regimen will keep you healthy and fit for life. Explore speakers (Elizabeth Gilbert, Joyce Meyer, TD Jakes, Oprah, Deepak Chopra) on YouTube that have positive messages and listen to them daily. Implement the tips they give to living a positive and purposeful existence. Get that certification to up your credentials. Hire others that know what you don’t to train you and give you fresh eyes.
Shock Your Body. I know this maybe your least favorite tip. Don’t panic. Start slow and your body will follow your lead. Regardless of weight, working out and physical activity releases chemicals called endorphin’s into our brain to make us feel good. In addition, endorphin’s also induce a positive feeling in the body, similar to that of morphine. For example, the feeling that follows extensive workout is often described as ‘euphoric.’ That burst of happiness, known as ‘runner’s high,’ can be accompanied by a positive and energizing outlook on life. Not into running or extensive boot camps? No worries, start slow! Go hiking with a friend, enroll in a dance class or social exercise group. Be social and meet new friends while getting in shape.
Revamp Your Style. Start with your hair and work your way to the toes. Get a fresh cut and complimentary highlights or low-lights for the ladies. Make an appointment at make-up counter to get a makeover or make-under depending on your goals and ideal look. Next, invest in new pieces that fit your current lifestyle; healthy, active, social and polished. Make sure you have a quality core wardrobe (perfect fitting jeans, cashmere sweater, 2 dresses, slacks etc). Grab shirts or scarves in complimentary colors to brighten your face. Finally, get a mani-pedicure. And yes, this tip is for men too!
The trick to moving forward after a divorce is to discipline yourself in the three areas of your life. Your mind may tell you ‘I don’t want to learn anything new..it’s too hard’. Your body may tell you ‘What’s the point? Let’s stay here all night where it’s warm, cozy and safe’. Your old clothes may say ‘Don’t discard me! We had so many great times together. I want you to wear me forever…who cares if I have holes and don’t fit. People don’t care what you like’. Try to push past the deterring self-talk and get into action whether you feel like it or not. Your mind, body and style will slowly start to transition with you to the next chapter.
You’re single and dating…oh joy! First, congratulations on having the courage to try again. Second, you can do this. You only get one shot at making a first impression. You may be thinking, “If they get to know the real me, it shouldn’t matter what I wear.”
If you show up looking like you just raided the Walmart sales rack, wearing the same black dress or suit you wore when you rang in the new millennium, or dressed inappropriately for the date, you will most likely be dismissed as a potential mate faster than you can spell Mississippi. Yes, it’s sad but true!
Keeping in mind these simple three tips will make sure you are dressed for dating success!
Three Questions to Ask Before You Leave the House
1. Is my wardrobe choice inviting? Flirty colors on our ladies is key! Shades of red are scientifically proven to attract a man’s attention more than any other color. If you’re not into red choose darker shades of pink like magenta. Guys, are you in a stuffy black business suit? Grab a soft cashmere sweater in a navy or dark gray instead. Giving a warm “come get to know me” vibe will help ease the both of you.
2. What does my wardrobe say about me? When dressing for a date give off the same vibe as the amazing person you want to attract. Portraying yourself in a demure and trustworthy fashion, no matter what the occasion, will only increase your chances of having a great date. If you want to be treated like a lady or a real man, dress like one. Ladies, make sure you’re accentuating your best asset and only one. Don’t show too much skin. If you are showing your legs make sure you have a modest neckline. Men, please don’t pull anything from the hamper. Make sure your clothes are clean, ironed and polished. Trust me, she notices! When you place more value on yourself, others will notice and treat you with more respect. Try getting a few new pieces that you just wear for dates. Over time, colors and fabric lose their vibrancy. A short shopping trip to buy a few fresh dating essentials is recommended.
3. Where are we going? Am I going to be comfortable? Gentlemen, did you tell your date where you are taking her? Nothing is worse than dressing for the wrong venue. You don’t want to find yourself or your date in heels and a dress hanging out in a dive bar, overdressed at a barbecue, under-dressed at a formal occasion or freezing cold in a romantic boat ride with no jacket. She will be so uncomfortable and in return you will be feel like you failed.
By answering these questions you can get your mind off your attire and focus on your date. When you make fashionably educated choices you will be stylin’ in chicness, comfort, and confidence!
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