7 Tips For Creating The Perfect Online Dating Profile
1. Avoid starting with a negative, your dating profile should be about the positives that you have to offer, as this is your chance to shine and sell yourself. Mentioning bad dates or how no one wants you, or that you’ve been hurt in the past is going to send people straight to the next profile! Keep it positive…make them want to get to know more about you…
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Dr Jane Greer on Mariah Carey & Moving Quickly in a Relationship
Singer Mariah Carey is already talking marriage with her new boyfriend, James Packer. Typically, it’s the woman who’s eager to start talking marriage, sometimes even early in the relationship.
Although they’ve only been dating for a matter of days, James already believes he wants to marry her. The two have visited several countries together since last week. Deciding to get married is a big step for so many reasons, and thinking about doing it when you are just beginning to get to know each other might not always be the best idea.
When two people fall in love, anything seems possible. You might quickly begin to think about spending the rest of your life with that person, and even fantasize about how wonderful it could be. That is what love does, it makes everything look wonderful. The trouble is, a lasting relationship is made up of much more than the immediate chemistry and romance people experience when they first come together and the rest of the world falls away.
That world doesn’t stay away forever, and when it creeps back in with finances, job responsibilities, the possibility of having children, and other things that take place during daily life, it is helpful and important to have a strong foundation underneath you to know how to deal with these things as a unit. If you have time to get to know each other, allowing you to establish and understand your commonalities, shared goals and values, methods of communication, and ability to compromise and problem solve, you will be in a much better place to make your joint life work.
These are the nuts and bolts that determine whether or not you will be able to go the distance together. Too often when you lead with love, moving too quickly, you eliminate and edit out the opportunity to experience your partner in the real world and you might not be equipped to deal with the curve balls that life sends your way.
Time also allows you to establish a good balance between the me, and the we, which is necessary in sharing a healthy relationship. The risk of rushing into making the decision to spend your life with someone you don’t know well enough, despite the fact that you think you do, is that you can wind up in a situation that requires making concessions that feel more like sacrifice rather than compromise.
If it starts to seem that you are giving up what is important to you, it can be the beginning of your partnership no longer working effectively. So unless you have had the time to navigate your shared life and the demands that it entails, you might want to slow down a little.
When, then, is it okay to start that conversation about happily ever after? It’s probably best to begin once you’ve determined you’re exclusive and your individual worlds are clearly merging into a joint world. That’s the point at which you can look toward creating a future together and therefore discuss marriage, whereby you and your partner can see yourselves continuing together over the course of your lives.
Look to avoid bringing marriage up out of the blue because if there’s nothing concrete to attach it to, then the relationship may not be at that point and you may scare your partner off by being too premature with the idea. He or she may completely push back as a result. Sometimes talking about moving in together before bringing up the subject of tying the knot is a good starting point. There are times, however, when people are forced to talk about marriage sooner than they might otherwise. If one person has to move to another part of the country, or even the world, for a career opportunity for example.
The bottom line is that everything looks great at the beginning of a relationship and it is easy to get caught up in the excitement and fanfare. Be aware though of looking too far ahead. Give yourself a chance to be sure you are truly compatible before you walk down the aisle. Keep in mind also that if you are just coming out of a relationship and dealing with the aftermath of rejection, it can make this new relationship even more attractive and can be a way to put the pain in the past. If that is the case it is even more important that you take a deep breath and give yourself the time you need to make sure this is right for you.
It seems that Mariah and James don’t have these qualms and are ready to get serious and move forward with a shared life together. Only time will tell if they are moving too fast…
Article by Dr Jane Greer
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How to Make Your Dating Worth It
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I few years back I read in the Metro newspaper that men invest in their looks and wardrobe when there is potential for romance, and that in the UK Scottish men are the highest spenders.
I asked my then boyfriend, who happened to be Scottish, if he thought this was true.
“Are you kidding me? Of course it’s true, I bought two shirts and a pair of jeans just before our first date.” By the way, just as most men, he hated shopping.
I was impressed and charmed and got all fuzzy from the inside. For me it meant that he had taken our date seriously.
1. You Want Someone Who Invests in Dating as Much as You Do
The other day a girlfriend told me about her first date with a guy who had seemed to have high potential when they corresponded. They met for coffee, she offered to pay her share, he took the money and then they started to split the change awkwardly afterwards, counting the pennies. He was generous enough to give her a bigger share of the change back!
Oh dear, it was just a cup of coffee. He surely wouldn’t have gone bankrupt if he had just offered to pay. Needless to say, the date didn’t go very well.
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We ladies, have to spend as well, we spend on hair, make up, outfits, beautician, you name it; we spruce up seriously when we go out on a date. In the US dinner dates are a norm, even if they are first dates. Of course they don’t come cheap and there is an eternal debate whether the guy should foot the bill or whether the daters should go Dutch.
I guess we all have our own thoughts about this, although sometimes even the offer to pay from the guy’s part or the willingness to share the cost from the woman’s part can go a long way in warming each other’s hearts.
Dates are an expense we should all consider. The bottom line is that we should be prepared to budget for them, to do our dating in style.
2. But Should We Pay for The Service?
The best things in life are free…goes the Mastercard advert. But are they?
Free dating sites are very popular nowadays, thus attracting the serious daters along with the time wasters, or even worse people who are already in a relationship. The easy sign up and the semi anonymity are to blame.
When it’s all too easy, no wonder trust issues can appear right from the beginning. Maybe he’s a serial dater. Maybe she goes out partying every night. Who could tell? We know so little about the person in the beginning and the fact that they hopped onto the dating band wagon for a free ride, might not be their biggest plus. Even if we’re on it too!
3. How Are Paying Dating Sites Better?
When the world is inundated with free dating sites and dating apps, isn’t it a comforting thought that your date, just as yourself, has paid to meet you? Niche dating sites are on the rise and they are proof of higher expectations, for quality dates between people who are more compatible and are more committed to dating and to relationships.
Dating profile writing and dating image photography are also on the rise. This shows an expectation of higher quality profiles, with better photos and more engaging self-summaries becoming the norm. After all, we are perceived and chosen, if not on the basis of our photos and what we write about ourselves.
In the world of dating quality should always override quantity. We should think of ourselves as too valuable to leave things to chance, to sift through all the time wasters, date after date after date…
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Article by Laura Gub
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Who Should You Be on Your First Date
Dating begins with the presentation of “who we are.” Are you showing up as the “real you?” or are you presenting a different version of yourself in the hopes of impressing another?
First dates provide an opportunity to create an impression by putting one’s best foot forward. It’s tempting terrain for pretending to be something we’re not, but doing so can eventually hurt both parties.
In pretending to be something we are not, we fool the other into buying into a product that’s clearly not for sale. We lure them into what we think they want, or who we’d like to be, but are not. There’s no future relationship possible from this context, only games, falseness and failure.
The extremes to which some people feel compelled to amend their personalities and attitudes to get love, is alarming. When the need to be wanted overtakes the need to be who we are, failure will follow. It’s imperative to honor ourselves in order to love another.
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Dr Jane Greer on Jennie Garth & Can You “Win” the Breakup
It’s been less than two years since actors Jennie Garth and Peter Facinelli finalized their divorce, but already both are engaged to new partners. After Peter announced his engagement on March 16, Jennie’s engagement to her new boyfriend of only a few months was confirmed last week.
The question is, is this a coincidence or a “battle of the exes”? Sometimes one person will try to “win” their breakup by not being the one left alone while their ex has found new love…
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